When Does the Soul Enter the Body?

A lot of people look for this article that I wrote some time ago – so I thought I would post it again here in this scribd format


A New Form of Birth?

As we go deeper into the age of Dwapara Yuga (the age of energy) we will see science advance in many ways.  In so doing, mankind may begin to feel “all-powerful.” But, for the perceptive mind, there will always remain the journey of the soul. This will remain essentially the same – though outer circumstances will change – such as technology around birth and death and much more. And the laws of karma always remain, i.e.,  what you put out  – you get back. It may be on time delay – but it will happen.

Anyway – my thoughts ran in this direction after reading this article yesterday:

No men OR women needed: Scientists create sperm and eggs from stem cells

Human eggs and sperm have been grown in the laboratory in research which could change the face of parenthood.

It paves the way for a cure for infertility and could help those left sterile by cancer treatment to have children who are biologically their own.

I was relieved to know that the author thought there might be ethical concerns.   At this point the researchers think they have created preliminary sperm cells and egg cells – which is pretty amazing.  My hat is off to them on a purely scientific level, even if I have misgivings about the direction of the whole deal.

The sperm had heads and short tails and are thought to have been mature enough to fertilise an egg.

The eggs were at a much earlier stage but were still much more developed than any created so far by other scientists…

…The American team used stem cells taken from embryos in the first days of life but
hope to repeat the process with slivers of skin…

Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/sciencetech/article-1223617/No-men-OR-women-needed-artificial-sperm-eggs-created-time.html#ixzz0VMRYBHPV

However, there are many ways that the greed aspect of human nature could exploit this science.  At this point, my gut reaction is that some things are better left alone.  However, that is unlikely. Science will continue to evolve. What is needed is for “spiritual  science” to evolve right along with it,  or even more ideally, ahead of it.

In any age – the spiritual truth remains, “Love they neighbor as thyself” and, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” This can help in most ethical questions – especially if you also consider the soul nature of all those involved.

In the article “When does the soul enter the body?” I present the teachings of Paramhansa Yogananda on the entering at conception.

When the sperm and ovum unite, at the moment of conception, there is a flash of light in the astral world. Souls there that are ready to be reborn, if their vibration matches that of the flash of light, rush to get in…Paramhansa Yogananda

Spiritual Stem Cell Research In his lessons on healing, Yogananda also teaches how a deeply skilled meditator can transform his own stubborn body cells back to the more pliable stem cell state, and then command them to recreate a limb! I have read of a few cases in which this has worked.  I offer it here as an example of “spiritual science” being way ahead of the medical science at this point – not in the normal population certainly – but rather in a few extraordinary human beings.

However, from the teachings of Yogananda, an avatar for this age,  we can at least take some hints toward medical ethics.  For instance, in his above instructions, a person is using his own body cells and spiritually transforming them back to the stem cell state. So, of course – no life is taken in the process. No embryonic cells are needed to create the stems cells.  The material plane corollary is the ever-developing science of converting skin cells into stems cells.

And, of course, in his teachings above, regarding life starting at conception, one can infer compassion for the tiny fetus, and even more especially when that soul has been conceived by spiritual parents.  Even if society becomes more and more jaded regarding the presence of life and the soul in tiny baby – it doesn’t mean that we should all so become hardened in that way.  I mention this because the “norms” of society do have some effect on us, especially to younger people. If something is legal – there is a tendency to think it may also be moral or “okay.”

However, most women do seem to feel, in their heart of hearts, that abortion is wrong – once they have experienced it. They may feel that in the less-than-ideal circumstances it was still their best choice – but they may wish they had done more to avoid the predicament.  Sometimes that is easier said than done.  But – since this is primarily a blog about family life – you can discuss this with your sons and daughters to not take this subject lightly in their own lives.  Again – because something is “legal” – it may feel “okay”  – until they are faced with it.  So – hopefully they will make good choices that lead to a happy outcome.

And – in spite of our best efforts as parents – “life happens.” No matter what challenges you face in your family, lead with love.  Consider all that I have written here simply as helpful commentary for discussions that may arise in a home with teens and ‘tweens.

God bless you all.

Mary Kretzmann

PS – Click below for a wonderfully fun and inspiring Thanksgiving letter written by Yogananda in 1934.

November Healing Newsletter  – printable version:


When Does the Soul Enter the Body?

I just learned that an early version of this chapter was used in a student Congressional Workshop on “Personhood Defined as Beginning at Conception?” – only 21 documents were used. Nice to know that Paramhansa Yogananda was represented. His insights on the matter are so clear.

When Does the Soul Enter the Body? by Mary Kretzmann

(scribd.com document – very nice format – easy to print and forward.)


Paramhansa Yogananda addressed the point of when the soul enters the body in numerous writings. Most of them go way beyond what you need to tell to child, no matter what the age. Those deeper writings are for married couples desiring to pray in a special way at the point of conception, in order to invite a spiritual child to their family. (Of course, the love, goodness, and spiritual devotion of a couple also serve as a divine magnet, helping to draw a more spiritually receptive child.) The story below carries the essence of this deep truth, and frames it in a simple manner that can be broken down and used appropriately, depending on the age of the child.

Swami Kriyananda was often present when Paramhansa Yogananda spoke privately with disciples, received visitors, or discussed his writings. These conversations are recorded in a wonderful book, Conversations with Yogananda. This basic question of life is addressed in entry #177:

It is a common belief these days that until a child is actually born, it is not yet a consciously developing human being. This belief is fallacious.

“When does the soul enter the body?” someone asked the Master.

“At the moment of conception,” he replied. “When the sperm and ovum unite, there is a flash of light in the astral world. Souls there that are ready to be reborn, if their vibration matches that of the flash of light, rush to get in. Sometimes two or more get in at the same time, and the woman has twins, triplets, or even – well!

“It is important, therefore, to come together physically with an uplifted consciousness. That flash generated in the astral world reflects the couple’s state of consciousness, especially as they felt during the moment of physical union.”

Conversations with Yogananda: Entry ~ 177 ~

Some sensitive, intuitive parents report feeling the soul being born to their family in that moment; and that the soul feels like a fully conscious, mature presence that then becomes the baby. Some parents say they can sense something of the soul’s strengths and challenges, and how to best guide that soul, once he or she is born, and ready for the School of Life. It is by no means every devotee parent who feels these things – but it does happen, and it helps shine some light on this topic.

Interestingly, in his teachings of the Bhagavad-Gita, Paramhansa Yogananda said that the moment the sperm and ovum unite is when soul is “born” to this plane, and, therefore that is the ideal moment from which to draw an astrological chart. However, since that is highly impractical, using the moment of the baby’s first breath is the second best option, and is considered only to be approximate. (For this reason, and others, he said only a true God realized Master can do an astrological chart with complete accuracy.)

Some of these things can be given to a child in small doses whenever the “birds and the bees” questions come up. They appreciate this image of a flash of light that calls the child’s soul to the parents. You know your child, and you will know if and when to share any of these things. It is comforting for the child to know that we are always the soul – but sometimes we have a physical body, and sometimes (such as after death, and before life) we have an astral body, made of energy and light. I have seen these ideas help many children, young and old.

Paramhansa Yogananda also taught that when the flash occurs, from the sperm and ovum uniting, the new body starts to create the medulla oblongata, the seat of the “ego” in the body. He sometimes referred to the ego as the “soul identified with the body.” Interestingly, I first heard about some of the metaphysical aspects of the medulla in a pre-med Anatomy and Physiology class at University of New Hampshire, in the 1970’s. The professor, in front of 500 students, said the medulla is the most metaphysical point in the body, and that it is also called the “mouth of God,” and it is where life force enters the body. I later heard these same things when I came on this spiritual path less than a year later, and I have since wondered if he had read Yogananda’s teachings!…

Read more at scribd article, above

or here in an earlier website post on “When Does the Soul Enter the Body?”

Rhythms, and Weekly Satsangs

Family life is easier, in general, when we have some daily and weekly routines. It’s okay to break routines – but nonetheless, it is still good to have them. These might include bedtime, homework, chores, meals, brushing teeth, and more. Personal styles will differ with this, so I don’t want to define the concept too much; but family harmony is enhanced when there are some clear guidelines, without being rigid. If you find yourself nagging about the same things every day, consider moving in the direction of stronger routines. Then the power of habit contributes to family harmony.

In earlier chapters, I mentioned several things to help awaken spiritual energy and devotion in your children, such as prayers and spiritual stories, etc. All of these things, plus family meals, help to make up the daily rhythms. Even if you can’t manage to do anything else, these things can be of enormous help to your child, if you are sincere and loving. Your child learns that you deeply value these things.

Finding God: It is comforting to know that Paramhansa Yogananda said to his students,  “If you do 10% of what I say, you will find God.”

And sometimes he would say, “”If you do 5% of what I say, you will find God.”

And, seemingly, to give strength to even the most faint of heart, he said, “Even if you do only 1% of what I say, you will find God.”

Now, it is worth mentioning that he actually wrote a very great deal, so when you consider 10% of that – it would be quite an accomplishment. And even 1% of his teachings or writings, if sincerely applied, would be transformational. For instance, one time in answer to an overly intellectual visitor with persistent, mind-bending theological questions, he firmly replied, “Love God!”

If we could deeply apply that one teaching to “Love God!” we would indeed find God!

But even if right now we can only apply a little bit of these teachings, we will feel an increase of God’s grace of joy or peace in our lives, and we will want more of it. And thus the initial spiritual act or commitment, though small, may be the turning point in the direction of our union with God. Thus, even the 1% helps us find God, eventually. He didn’t say how long it would take…just that it would happen. So, this isn’t meant to be a ticket to simply skate by.  Each soul, and each family, can simply remain open to whatever next step will bring them more soul deepening, and inner joy.

“Even a little practice of this inward religion will free one from dire fears and colossal sufferings.”Bhagavad Gita

Very early on in our family life, when our daughter was very young, we decided to take our children to at least one satsang, or spiritual event every week; however, there were no spiritual events geared for families at that time at Ananda Village. The best bet, then, was to go to a kirtan, a time of spiritual chanting, and sit near the back. I’d stay for a while, and then take my daughter out if she got restless. The basic rule of thumb, one learns, is to set it up for success. If she became too restless, I’d simply leave. When I started this practice, she was about 18 months old, and she loved it. The man leading the kirtan was “Nitai,” and as we approached she would say, joyfully, “Go Jai Jai Titai!” (Some of the chants use the word “Jai,” which means inner victory.)

However, sometimes a child, though restless, wants to be allowed to stay. In such cases, we’d still take our child outside, saying that it required quiet behavior to go back in. There was no pressure on the children to conform to a standard that was beyond their capability, because we were also prepared to go home peacefully. If they agreed, we’d go back in, but sit in the back, in case we had to step out again. We considered this a training phase for the child to learn how to behave in a quiet environment. (This process could be applied to any environment where quiet behavior is required.)

Later on, for a good 10 years or more, my husband and I taught Ananda Sunday school, and we also helped lead special Sunday Services geared for families. These things made it much easier for families. And, in general, it seemed helpful to have some events where the families participated together in spiritual events. In other words, the process was important, as well as the content. If the same content was covered and yet there was never this shared spiritual experience as a family, it did not seem to have the nearly same degree of spiritual benefit to the children. I will go into that more deeply in a later chapter.

Our elder son, Peter: As I mentioned earlier, for several years we had something at Ananda called “Family Sunday Service” every Sunday. It was geared for the kids, complete with simple skits to illustrate the teachings and sacred stories. Our son, Peter, was the perfect age when these began, but once he was in junior high school, he still preferred the “Family Service,” and was not transitioning to the regular Sunday Service. We were all doing too good a job, in a sense.

The question finally resolved itself.  For reasons I won’t go into here (but perhaps in a later chapter) the Family Sunday Services changed from every Sunday, down to once a month. When this change occurred, I told Peter that we wanted him to go to regular Sunday Service with us, every Sunday. He was about to start going to the public high school, and his reply was classic, “You want me to do WHAT?!?”

I repeated myself, and said that he could substitute another spiritual satsang, if available that week. (Our daughter, Krishnabai, liked variety, and would often comb the Ananda Villager Newsletter for ideas on alternate satsangs; many are available in a spiritual community.)  Otherwise, we said, we wanted him to come to Sunday Service. He was aghast. He had become used to the service geared for kids, and thus thought that he would not relate to the regular Sunday service. See what I mean about, “too good a job?”

Anyway – we went back and forth on this with quite a bit of vigor. Finally I said, “Listen, if I did not see to your secular education, the cops would be at my door. The schools provide the education, but ultimately it is my parental civic duty to see that you are educated. Likewise, I see it as my parental spiritual duty to see that you at least get a rudimentary spiritual education. High School is 5 days a week; Sunday Service is only an hour and a half.”

Being firm helps matters. We repeated this “discussion” the following Sunday.  I finally said, “If you are really against it, then please give me a solid plan of how you will do one hour of focused spiritual study each week.”

Peter was a “go with the flow” kid, and sought the path of least resistance. He said, “Oh – it’s easier to go to Sunday Service.”

And so it was. I considered it a minimal way to accomplish the goal of “spiritual education.”  The ministers bring in many interesting elements into their talks, such as history, news, humor, science, and the concept of universal religion. It offers much to the developing mind of a teen. So, despite his initial protests, I felt it was far and away in his best interest to have him there.  Most of my devotee friends would have caved during the above discussion. One said, “Well, I don’t ask my son to go to Sunday Service, but if he ever asks me a spiritual question, I answer it, and we have a good talk.”

To each his own, but as we sat there with our son each week through his 4 years of high school, I was struck by how many times his eyes lit up with interest (despite his outward demeanor of nonchalance) with something the minister said. I was also struck by how many times he laughed freely at the jokes. Ananda ministers teach with joy, and with depth. Watching this, and knowing my son, I thought to myself, “I can imagine that maybe he would freely strike up a spiritual conversation with me about once a year, but this way he is getting a little spiritual watering each week. It is answering questions that he would never even think to ask.”

I made no other demands on Peter except that he sit up in something that could pass as “straight.” This happened as he approached his 6′ of height, and he would stretch back in his chair in a nearly perfect oblique angle. I said, “Right angles, Peter; a 90 degree angle at the knees and at the seat…Attendance, and right angles, that’s all I ask.”

He complied with that simple request, though I had to remind him sometimes. It’s all part of Sri Yukteswar’s (guru of Paramhansa Yogananda) simple teaching: “learn to behave.”

Our youngest son, David: Our kids are spread out in age, 13 years, actually. So, by the time David was age 5, there were other parents leading Ananda Sunday School. We saw this as an opportunity to take a well deserved break and go to regular Sunday Service, while David went to Sunday school. However, he declared that he didn’t want to go to Sunday school unless we taught it. Oh my! (Looking back, I recall he idolized Peter, who is 8 years older, and David always seemed to want to “catch up” to Peter.)

I explained that we needed a break from teaching Sunday school, but we would be happy to help out sometimes, and wouldn’t that be nice?  No – he didn’t want to go unless we taught it every week. I said that wasn’t going to happen.

He then said, “Well, then I want to go to Sunday service with you.”

My reply, which I belatedly realized was counter to everything I tried to do with my kids, was, “Oh, no, you don’t want to go to Sunday Service. You’ll get bored.”

We went back and forth with this and I even repeated it, until I caught myself, and wondered, “What kind of message am I giving him?”

To clarify, I did not mean that Sunday Service at Ananda is boring, but I did feel it would be boring for a 5-year-old boy. The service lasts 90 minutes and includes an opening prayer and chanting (so far, so good) followed by a meditation (15 minutes) and then a reading and affirmation. Then comes a talk that is not geared to hold the interest of kids. The service ends with the “Festival of Light” which lasts about 25-30 minutes.

I told David that if we brought him to Sunday Service, then he would have to “learn to behave” in that environment. We would start with shorter segments, but he needed to behave quietly and respectfully while we were there. He agreed.  My husband and I decided that we would take turns leaving early, whenever it seemed that David had reached his young limit. (I also thought that he might change his tune and decide to go to Sunday school with his friends, after all. But I would now leave that up to him.)

The first few Sundays we only kept David there for the opening prayer and the chant, and then went outside for a while. Later we came back in for the Festival of Light, which includes lots of music and imagery, as well as multiple times of moving around (standing, sitting, going up for a blessing). Movement is important for a 5 year old who may feel challenged with sitting still!

Somewhat surprisingly to me, this went well. David remained consistent in his desire to do this with us. Our next step was to see if he could sit quietly during the meditation. We did not require that he meditate, or even look like he was meditating, but he did have to be still and quiet.  We taught him some of the basics of meditation, and I told him that he could try looking at the pictures of the Masters on the altar, while feeling love in his heart.

This went pretty well, but sometimes he was a bit restless. He responded well if I put my arm around his shoulder, lovingly.  This connection calmed him, and I think he appreciated that quiet contact. Gradually, over the course of that first year, David also learned to sit through the minister’s talk; I assumed most of it was going over his head. He was a very intelligent child, but he was only 6 by this time. One day at the dinner table, David piped up, as part of the conversation that was going on, “Master meditated on a tiger skin.”

Well now! I recalled that had been a very brief aside in a story 3 months prior at Sunday service, but this was an attractive piece of information for a 6 year-old boy! That was our first indication that he was actually listening. It wasn’t necessarily the most pertinent spiritual knowledge, but since David still liked the arrangement, we continued.

Progress is not always linear, and there were many times when David struggled with restlessness in this process. One Sunday, when my arm was around his shoulder, I moved my hand over to the center of his back, on the upper spine, between the shoulder blades. This seemed to have a more calming affect. And sometimes, during the minister’s talk, I would place my fingers up slightly above the nape of the neck, at the medulla oblongata. This was very helpful; he became calm and attentive. In the process, I felt that the vibration of my own calmness and inspiration was shared with David via the direct link at the medulla oblongata.

Medulla Oblongata and the “Mouth of God”: Jesus said, “Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word that proceedeth out of the mouth of God.” The lips and tongue comprise the mouth of man, because this is where we eat in a physical way, but the mouth of God is the medulla oblongata, inside the hollow point at the base of the skull. This is where we receive the divine energy that truly sustains us, and it is this flow of cosmic energy that Jesus was referring to when he said “every word.”

The Art and Science of Raja Yoga, by Swami Kriyananda

Paramhansa Yogananda states in his writings on “The Second Coming of Christ” that all language is a manifestation of AUM, and that languages communicate the thoughts and feelings that are universal to humankind. This is in the section on the miracle of Pentecost when people of many languages each understood St. Peter’s speech in their own tongue. He said that the power of AUM was so powerful in St. Peter, and in all of the disciples that day, that the vibration of AUM transmitted his thoughts and words to all of them, in their own tongue.

I believe this principle is at play in the story I shared about the medulla, because it was deeper and more immediate than the times when I put my arm around his shoulder, etc. (A family friend, a single mom, also discovered this was very helpful for her active son when he attended service with her.) As I listened to the minister’s talk, I was feeling calmly inspired, and this feeling was transmitted through the touch at the medulla. Prior to this touch, the words were going over David’s head, and so he did not have that feeling of inspiration, and thus he was restless. But with my touch at his medulla, that feeling of inspiration was shared, and he was able to listen calmly and receptively to the talk. It seemed to put him on the same wavelength.

I do want to be very clear: this touching at the medulla is not a form of behavior control, nor do I think it would be effective that way. For what it transits is your feeling. So – if your feeling was meant as behavior control, as in, “I want my kid to be still and I learned this technique in some yogi book somewhere…” your child will feel that and will probably swat your hand away, or squirm away from you, etc. And he will be right in doing so. But, if it is done as a form of loving support, to help the child share in the experience, he will welcome it.

Later: It has served us well to have this simple family rule of going to at least one satsang per week.  It eliminates fights. The kids knew what to expect, and even when we bent the rule, we didn’t eliminate it altogether. And the kids learned to work with it. I remember one Sunday morning when our youngest, David was age 10, piped up, “Can I go to Purification today?”

I was surprised to hear him ask such a thing. Purification is a spiritual ceremony at Ananda, involving 2 mantras, and long periods of prayerful silence. I couldn’t fathom why my 10-year-old son was asking to go to this.  What was this sudden interest in such a quiet and still ceremony?

I finally put 2 and 2 together. Purification Ceremony starts at 10 AM, and Sunday Service starts at 11 AM.  David was an avid fan of the King’s basketball team, and a game started at 11 AM, and he wanted to be home to watch it!  I was amused that he had learned the family ropes well enough that he didn’t even bother pleading with us just to skip Sunday Service, free and clear. Instead, he thought it through, and asked to go to Purification as a substitute. I was also amused that he hadn’t breathed a word of why he wanted to do this (so he could watch the King’s game).  Of course, we said yes, and he was happy with that. In the future, whenever he asked to go to Purification, I took it to mean there was another King’s game playing early that day.

At other times we would allow David to choose one of Swami Kriyananda’s talks online; these talks are fairly short, yet beautifully deep, with a good balance of reason and devotion. Swamiji starts each one with a prayer and a mantra. Sometimes, when we simply need a “Sunday off,” we will watch one of these, and end with a healing prayer.  If I did not have the blessing of living right here at Ananda Village, I would use this online resource regularly for my family.

This all gives variety, but there is value in being in a room with other devotees chanting, and meditating, so we prefer that our son joins us for Sunday Service most of the time.  The talks are interesting and inspiring. It can broaden the perspective of kids’ minds in their teen years, a crucial period for spiritual choices and development.  As the years go by, I’ve come to feel this was one of the more important spiritual choices we have made as parents, and it is simply part of the rhythm of our lives.

For Further inspiration:

“A Way to Awakening”
TV show series with Swami Kriyananda.